We are all guilty of oversharing sometimes, especially in a social office environment where your co-workers feel more like your friends than your colleagues, but there really are some things that you should keep to yourself.
Personally, I make jokes out of a lot of things in the office, but I'd say that virtually no one really knows the ins and outs of my personal life and I never discuss or poke fun of situations that are genuine truths.
People will always make assumptions about you. Assumptions about your political views, assumptions about your finances, assumptions about your family and relationships, the list goes on. Sometimes, opening up to people at work and letting them into your personal life can render you weak. It draws attention to your problems and leaves you vulnerable. It doesn't matter who it is or how nice everyone is in your office either. Withholding personal information doesn't mean we are lying and this article isn't referring to secrets in a sinister sense. It's saying that it's okay to keep some things to yourself. Not everyone is going to have the same opinion as you do.
This article on www.cheatsheet.com lists these as the 5 things you shouldn't share:
- Your personal and political beliefs
- Medications and certain medical conditions
- Alcohol and drug use
- Salary information
- Financial or family problems
A couple of topics above particularly offend me. Firstly, anything around finances and salary. People who are obsessed with telling everyone how much they earn, how much their holiday cost and how big a deposit they are putting down on their house is just so awkward so listen to. It's cringe and I would never share my financial situation with anyone.
I also loathe people who openly talk about drug abuse. People can do what they want to do, but discussing drug abuse out loud is so uncouth and it can make some people feel extremely uncomfortable. The point is, the office is the office and there are certain subjects that are best off kept in the pub.
Have a look at the other points in the article. Definitely some food for thought I assure you:
“Joe’s favorite food is chicken Alfredo” and “Jane doesn’t like it when people use trendy phrases like ‘cray-cray’ or ‘totes’.” You may have learned the types of things that irritate your co-workers, their individual strengths and weaknesses, their sense of humor, and a variety of superfluous information about them. Your co-workers may also have learned this type of information about you, as well. But, do your co-workers know you as well as say, your roommate or a close friend does? Probably not. Even though you spend a great deal of time with the people you work with, it’s generally unwise to tell them personal information that doesn’t pertain to work. Think of it this way: If you wouldn’t want your boss and the rest of the office knowing something about you, it’s probably best to keep the information to yourself.